You Can't Force a Relationship by Calling Him
Here is an excerpt from Calling Men: The Complete Guide to Calling and Emailing the Men You Date:You cannot force a relationship by calling him.
One reason that women want to call men - and are sorely tempted to call their man when they are not hearing from him - is because women think that by calling him, it will further their connection with him. It will keep their relationship going. It will make their relationship happen. No calls, no contact = no relationship.
But the problem is that you cannot force a connection and a relationship by making that call, as painful as that can be. Calling him will not make it happen; nor will writing letters or sending emails. The same goes for sending letters, cards, or emails to your man's friends or family. (Oh, no, there goes another backdoor attempt to sneak our way into his heart - make his family adore us! That will not make him adore us. It may make him want to avoid us even more, since he sees this ploy for what it is.)
From a reader: Could there be another explanation for his not calling me?
Dear Mimi,Could it be that the guy might be interested in a woman, but is thinking it through when he doesn't reply to her emails or calls? Should it always mean he isn't interested?
--A.
No, that is just plain old wishful thinking. It's an example of the denial women go through when a special man in their lives stops calling them.
When it comes to women, men don't sit around and ponder. They act!
Women sometimes try to interpret an apparent lack of interest as something more positive - in other words, they make excuses for a man's lack of calls. Women who talk themselves into believing that a man is just "thinking things over" are living in a dream world. What's worse, they waste valuable time waiting for the man who is not calling them.
In my book, I also show you how to handle it when, in spite of
my best efforts to convince you not to call him, you just
have to call him anyway! Sometimes, it's very tough not to call. We've all
been there!
Mimi Tanner is simply one of the best when it comes to writing to women on the art of finding and keeping a great man. She has become well-known on a global scale in a relatively short time. Why? Because she covers highly in-demand subjects with a flair and disarming friendliness that is unequalled.
Her book "Calling Men" is truly a magnum opus when it comes to dealing with one of the most frustrating problems women face in the dating world: How to handle calling, emailing and text messaging men.
You know the feeling as I do, I'm sure. You want to give him every opportunity to call you first, but you also want 100% control over your dating life. What to do? Mimi lays it all out for you in logical steps that are a blast to read.
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The Way You Handle Calls, Emails, and Text Messages Makes All The Difference In Getting Him To Fall In Love and Stay In Love With You!
